Posts Tagged ‘codependency’
Secondhand Drinking: Society’s Problem
Secondhand drinking is society’s problem. Most of us are unaware (don’t notice) it exists in our workplaces, schools, families and communities. Most of us don’t know nearly 80 million Americans are directly affected, as are hundreds of millions more worldwide. This count doesn’t include those indirectly affected. As such, you or someone you know are…
Read MoreCodependents – StrongWilled or Willful? – Darlene Lancer
Codependents – strong-willed or willful? is a question frequent guest author, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, explores in her post below. As she writes, “A strong-minded person accepts life on life’s terms, which provides a solid basis for constructive, effective action that is well-considered and not compulsive. Having a strong will is having a strong mind.…
Read MoreChoosing to Forgive an Alcoholic
Choosing to forgive an alcoholic… Depending on how long you’ve been living and/or coping with a loved one’s alcoholism, this can be one of the most difficult concepts to grasp, let alone embrace – choosing to forgive your alcoholic. I’d repeatedly been told that alcoholism was like any other disease, and I wanted to (and…
Read MoreProtecting Yourself From Secondhand Drinking
Secondhand Drinking – what is it, and how does a person protect themselves from it? What is secondhand drinking? It is being on the receiving end of a person’s (family member, friend or stranger-on-the-street’s) drinking behaviors. What are those drinking behaviors? Fighting with friends or family about the drinking; saying or doing things you don’t…
Read MoreHow Do You Trust an Addict | Alcoholic
So how do you learn to trust an addict | alcoholic? [And by the way, there is new language to talk about a person with a severe alcohol or other drug use disorder (what we used to refer to as an addict | alcoholic), as well as alcoholism or drug addiction. Please click here to…
Read More5 Reasons People Relapse After Years of Sobriety
This post was first written in 2014, but the 5 reasons people relapse after years of sobriety are still important to understand. So I updated with current information in 2020. I was driven to write this post after receiving phone calls and emails following the news of Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death and an outpouring of…
Read MoreRelapse | How Often Does it Happen and Why
Relapse is when a person in recovery or abstinence from alcohol or other drugs use disorders starts drinking or using again. I discuss five reasons people relapse after years of sobriety in my post of this same name. These include: Not understanding the basics of how the brain works Not understanding relapse is a hallmark…
Read More10th Anniversary Edition “If You Loved Me, You’d Stop!” Now Available to Order
As you can imagine, I’m THRILLED to share the pre-sale link to my newly published “10th Anniversary Edition If You Loved Me, You’d Stop!” Click for Amazon’s pre-sale link: 10th Anniversary Edition If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! Research Highlights Shared in the 10th Anniversary Edition If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! why alcoholism is…
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