Help for Families | Secondhand Drinking | Codependency
Thanksgiving and Gratitude in Hard Times
Gratitude – it is often an illusive feeling, let alone concept to practice – especially when times are difficult. Yet consciously looking for that which one can be grateful can be life changing – especially for those living with the family disease of addiction. The following is a guest post by Darlene Lancer, a Licensed…
Read MoreRecovery Coaching Explained
As Cathy Taughinbaugh explains, recovery coaching can be fore the addicted person or the family members, such as parents, who love them. Cathy Taughinbaugh is a Life and Recovery Coach, former teacher and mother of a crystal meth addict who has been in recovery for over 7 years. She writes on addiction, recovery and treatment…
Read MoreCourage to Change the Things I Can
COURAGE to change the things I can. This is the 2nd line of the Serenity prayer. Unfortunately, for decades, I interpreted “courage” to mean having the guts, the drive, the stick-to-it-ness to keep at it until I got the things not in keeping with how I felt they should be – changed. As you can…
Read MoreShame: The Core of Addiction and Codependency
Shame is a crippling emotion for codependents and addict | alcoholics. It is at the core of their role in the family disease of addiction, and it is what can keep them from getting the help they need to change their lives. The following is a guest post by Darlene Lancer, a Licensed Marriage and…
Read MoreForgiveness – So Important to Recovery, But How?
Forgiveness is such an important step to moving forward in one’s recovery from addiction or secondhand drinking (codependency). But sometimes the pain, shame, blame and stigma of what was done or said when the disease was active makes it a difficult to imagine, let alone do. The following is a guest post by Sandy Brewer,…
Read MoreAlcohol Abuse Going On in the Family? – If Only My Doctor Had Asked
Alcohol Abuse is a drinking pattern that causes Secondhand Drinking (SHD). Secondhand Drinking is term to describe the impacts on the person who is on the receiving end of another person’s drinking behaviors. Drinking behaviors include: drunken arguments crazy, convoluted accusations physical fights verbal, physical or emotional abuse neglect driving while impaired, riding in a…
Read MoreEmotionally Abusive Relationships and the Domestic Violence Connection
Emotionally abusive relationships are one of the tragic outcomes in families with untreated, undiagnosed, unhealthily discussed substance abuse and/ addiction. One of the outcomes of emotionally abusive relationships can be domestic violence. Darlene Lancer shares valuable information about the reasons behind a person’s repeated efforts to stay in a domestic violence relationship. As she explains,…
Read MoreRecovery for Family Members of Addicts | Alcoholics
Recovery for family members of addicts and alcoholics — meaning to really let go of the worry, fear and angst over a loved one’s substance abuse or addiction, to forgive them and oneself for the insanity the disease caused in one’s life, to really understand what it means to set boundaries and let go of…
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