Tough Love – Harmful or Helpful?

For some family members, it's difficult to forgive and forget a loved one - even after years of sobriety.

Tough love – does it hurt or help a person with an addiction to alcohol or other drugs, aka substance use disorder (SUD), get the help they need? I regularly get some form of this question – generally because there’s so much confusion about what it means. Unfortunately, there is no single definition of tough…

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Using Brain Science to Change Your Mind

Brain science is a powerful tool one can use to change their thoughts, feelings or behaviors – seriously! For followers of my blog, you know my enthusiasm for one of the most profound discoveries I’ve learned which is how the brain wires, develops and maps. And it is this understanding that has helped me and…

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Relationship Killers: Anger | Resentment

Darlene Lancer on Shame

Anger | resentment – both can be relationship killers explains today’s guest author,  Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT.  Darlene is the author of Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, and her latest eBook is titled, Dealing with a Narcissist, 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People. She can…

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Children of Alcoholics Awareness Week | February 2017

One in four children live in families with a parent addicted to alcohol, according to the National Association of Children of Alcoholics. Unless you have been a child in a home with untreated, unhealthily discussed alcohol misuse, it’s difficult to image what it’s like to be a child in such a home. Devastating. Scary. Shame-filled.…

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Relatable Stories of Addicts | Howard Goodman, MA LMFT

Often it is the stories of those who have struggled with a substance use disorder (aka addiction) that help a person either seek or sustain long term recovery. Today’s guest author, Howard P. Goodman, MA LMFT, shares relatable stories of those who struggle with these disorders. Goodman is a licensed psychotherapist and addiction specialist who…

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