http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/2009/04/07/the-world-of-enmeshment/ substance abuse, addiction, addiction treatment, help for families, co-occurring disorders, underage drinking, mental illness, 21st century brain and neuroscience research. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:06:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/2009/04/07/the-world-of-enmeshment/#comment-3922 Breakingthecycles.com – Changing the Conversations » Blog Archive » 3 Reasons to Talk to Your Children About a Family Member’s Alcohol Misuse Sun, 18 Oct 2009 22:49:30 +0000 http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/?p=216#comment-3922 [...] 1.  There is a ‘current of discord’ (anger, fear, frustration) that flows through a family with a loved one who is repeatedly abusing and/or dependent on alcohol. The current affects the way the key players (the drinker and the spouse or parent or sibling or child) interact with one another and with each other. Unless the source of this current (the drinking behaviors) is acknowledged, it leaves everyone to interpret what the ‘real’ problem is, often blaming themselves or something they’ve done — thanks to the unhealthy communication dynamics that exist in a family with alcohol misuse. Recall that everything we think, feel and experience impacts how our neural networks wire — a family in chaos because of unidentified substance abuse, deeply affects the neural wiring our children experience — especially during brain development. (For more on underage brain development, click here, and for a post on the impacts on the neural networks of family members, click here, and for a post on the ‘enmeshment’ that goes on in an alcoholic family, click here.) [...] [...] 1.  There is a ‘current of discord’ (anger, fear, frustration) that flows through a family with a loved one who is repeatedly abusing and/or dependent on alcohol. The current affects the way the key players (the drinker and the spouse or parent or sibling or child) interact with one another and with each other. Unless the source of this current (the drinking behaviors) is acknowledged, it leaves everyone to interpret what the ‘real’ problem is, often blaming themselves or something they’ve done — thanks to the unhealthy communication dynamics that exist in a family with alcohol misuse. Recall that everything we think, feel and experience impacts how our neural networks wire — a family in chaos because of unidentified substance abuse, deeply affects the neural wiring our children experience — especially during brain development. (For more on underage brain development, click here, and for a post on the impacts on the neural networks of family members, click here, and for a post on the ‘enmeshment’ that goes on in an alcoholic family, click here.) [...]

]]> http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/2009/04/07/the-world-of-enmeshment/#comment-622 Breakingthecycles.com - Changing the Conversations » Blog Archive » Powerless Over Alcohol Thu, 09 Apr 2009 19:59:24 +0000 http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/?p=216#comment-622 [...] Breakingthecycles.com - Changing the Conversations …about the issues related to a loved one’s drinking: DUIs, dual diagnosis, underage drinking, adult children of alcoholics, co-addictions, alcohol abuse, alcoholism, brain disease, unhealthy coping skills (codependency) and more… « The World of Enmeshment [...] [...] Breakingthecycles.com – Changing the Conversations …about the issues related to a loved one’s drinking: DUIs, dual diagnosis, underage drinking, adult children of alcoholics, co-addictions, alcohol abuse, alcoholism, brain disease, unhealthy coping skills (codependency) and more… « The World of Enmeshment [...]

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