When Does Drinking Alcohol Become a Problem

When does drinking alcohol become a problem vs a night of fun or a complement to a lovely meal with friends? What can a person do to keep from crossing the line from “safely” drinking alcohol to abusing alcohol or developing alcoholism? Is there such a line – isn’t drinking either normal or alcoholic?

You have likely heard one or more of the following statements:

  • Drinking coffee sobers a person up.
  • Alcoholism is not a disease. Cancer is a disease. Alcoholism is a choice – put down the bottle!
  • Letting your teen drink at home teaches them how to drink safely.
  • An employee’s alcohol use is none of a company’s business.
  • “Forgetting” what happened while drinking is just a convenient way of pretending you don’t remember the horrible things you did last night.
  • An alcoholic has to hit bottom.

Thankfully, the latest brain and addiction-related research and science discoveries are debunking the common myths about drinking alcohol. For it is in believing these myths that a person’s drinking can cross the line from alcohol use to abuse to alcoholism [aka dependence].

About This “Line?”

It represents the three stages of drinking briefly described below:

  • Alcohol Use = “low-risk” or moderate drinking – defined as no more than 7 standard drinks per week, with no more than 3 of those 7 on any one day for women; and no more than 14 standard drinks per week, with no more than 4 of those 14 on any one day for men. A standard drink is defined as 5 ounces of table wine, 12 ounces of regular beer or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof hard liquor.
  • Alcohol Abuse = repeated binge drinking and/or routine heavy social drinking – heavy social drinking defined as drinking more than one standard drink/day for women or 2 standard drinks/day for men; repeated binge drinking defined as repeatedly drinking 4 or more standard drinks on an occasion for women and 5 or more for men.
  • Alcohol Dependence = alcoholism, one of the brain diseases of addiction – defined as a chronic, often relapsing brain disease.
When does drinking alcohol become a problem?

When does drinking alcohol become a problem?

What Does it Take to Cross the Line from Drinking Alcohol to Developing a Problem – Either Alcohol Abuse or Alcoholism?

Most people are unaware there is a line comprised of these three stages of drinking, believing instead that drinking is either “normal” or “alcoholic.” Most people are unaware there are increments along the line itself, that 35% of American adults never drink alcohol, or that 37% of American adults always drink within “low-risk” drinking limits. (NIAAA “Rethinking Drinking”) Thus examining and challenging the common myths from a scientific perspective – based primarily on 21st century brain and addiction-related research – can help readers recognize what it takes to cross the line from alcohol use to abuse to dependence and what it takes to stop the progression.

As for the research itself…

Much of the breakthrough research being presented is the result of two very important decades: the Decade of the Brain – the 1990s – and the Decade of Discovery – the 2000s. Much of it is the result of new imaging technologies that allow neuroscientists and medical professionals to study the live human brain in action and over time.

It is being conducted and reported by numerous national and international agencies and organizations, such as the NIAAA (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism), the SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Agency), the Partnership at DrugFree.org, the NIDA (National Institute on Drug Abuse), the American Academy of Pediatrics, ASAM [The American Society of Addiction Medicine] and the WHO (World Health Organization), to name a few.

To Better Understand This Line and What It Takes to Cross

I suggest you order my eBook, Crossing The Line From Alcohol Use to Abuse to Dependence. This is not about selling eBooks (it’s only $3.99, by the way). It’s about debunking the common myths or other common misperceptions, such as those listed in the opening.  For it is these myths that cause a person to drink more than their brains and bodies can process and thereby cross the line.

In this short, 80-page eBook, readers will find the latest brain and addiction-related research and science discoveries written for the general public that debunk the common myths about drinking alcohol. Examining and challenging these common myths from a scientific perspective can help readers recognize what it takes to cross the line and what it takes to stop the progression.

Some of the myths:
Myth 2: A Drink is A Drink
Myth 3: Throwing up, drinking coffee, taking a cold shower or walking around the block will sober a person up.
Myth 4: Eating a big meal absorbs the alcohol and drinking lots of water dilutes it so a person can drink more and not get drunk.
Myth 5: Some people can just hold their liquor better than others
Myth 6: The best thing to do for a drunk friend is to let them sleep it off.
Myth 7: People who get DUIs (DWIs) had to know they were too drunk to drive.
Myth 12: Teens are too young to be alcoholics, and besides, all teens drink at some point.
Myth 17: If an alcoholic relapses, it’s their fault. They just didn’t want it badly enough.
Myth 18: Family members and friends may worry about a loved one but once the drinking stops, they’ll be fine.

A few of the appendices:
Appendix A: Key Reasons a Person’s Drinking Crosses The Line From Alcohol Use to Abuse to Dependence (Alcoholism)
Appendix B: Neural Networks and Brain Development Explained
Appendix C: How Alcohol Hijacks the Brain; the Brain Disease of Alcoholism
Appendix E: Health Consequences of Secondhand Drinking (SHD)

To Order Information Resource

Whether any of the above myths sound familiar or you’ve questioned any number of the other common presumptions about drinking alcohol, this eBook is for you. It can be used by parents, students, people worried about their drinking, clinicians, policy makers, law enforcement officials, doctors, veterans, domestic violence professionals, social workers, family law attorneys, medical school students, family members, business leaders and treatment center providers – the list is endless.

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Nook version, http://tiny.cc/755okw

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Lisa Frederiksen

Lisa Frederiksen

Author | Speaker | Consultant | Founder at BreakingTheCycles.com
Lisa Frederiksen is the author of hundreds of articles and 12 books, including her latest, "10th Anniversary Edition If You Loved Me, You'd Stop! What you really need to know when your loved one drinks too much,” and "Loved One In Treatment? Now What!” She is a national keynote speaker with over 30 years speaking experience, consultant and founder of BreakingTheCycles.com. Lisa has spent the last 19+ years studying and simplifying breakthrough research on the brain, substance use and other mental health disorders, secondhand drinking, toxic stress, trauma/ACEs and related topics.
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29 Comments

  1. Alexandra McAllister on April 22, 2013 at 8:08 am

    Great article, Lisa. I’m sure your e-book will definitely help many. Bless you for all you do.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 12:53 pm

      Thank you, Alexandra – appreciate your compliment and comment!

  2. Gina on April 22, 2013 at 9:05 am

    Thanks for posting, people often ask me how to determine if their use is a “problem.” Part of me thinks that if you have to ask that question, it’s a good indicator things are out of alignment for you!

  3. Barbara Becker on April 22, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    Thank you Lisa, for this information about alcohol addiction. As a former critical care nurse, I saw the the most challenging affects of alcohol addiction. I saw how these loving individuals left this physical plane, without a single family member at their bedside. Nurses everywhere care for these people in a way that transcends the average. God bless you Lisa, for your work. You are helping many rather than the few.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 12:54 pm

      Gosh, Barbara, THANK YOU! I really appreciate your comment and your compliment.

  4. Sherie on April 22, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    Lisa, your book looks like such a valuable resource for debunking myths about alcohol use and misuse. Bravo!

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 12:55 pm

      Thank you, Sherie – let’s hope it helps those who need clarification – including family members who are not sure what they’re actually dealing with.

  5. Meryl Hershey Beck on April 23, 2013 at 12:32 am

    This is important information for families who are struggling to know if a loved one or friend has become dependent on alcohol.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 12:58 pm

      Thanks, Meryl – very much appreciate your comment!

  6. Anita on April 23, 2013 at 7:35 am

    Thanks for sharing your insight. I got a chuckle out of the myths…I have used them before when I was addicted…Its amazing how we can kid ourselves into thinking and believing these things.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 1:00 pm

      Isn’t it though, Anita! And as the family member or friend, we use the same ones in hopes it will all go away or fix itself. Thanks for your comment!

  7. Tom H on April 23, 2013 at 9:04 am

    Thanks for leaving some of the guidelines around use, abuse and dependence. This is a helpful tool when chatting with the teenagers we work with.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 1:01 pm

      I’ve found the debunking of some of these myths to be very a helpful approach when talking with teens, myself. I appreciate your comment, Tom H.

  8. Barbara C Billig on April 23, 2013 at 1:55 pm

    Very interesting article and I will pin your book to my pinterest site if you will send it to me.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      Thank you, Barbara! I’ll send the book cover jpg right now – thank you very much!!

  9. Lisa Frederiksen on April 23, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Lisa these are a great list of standards and I doubt most people are aware of how often they cross the line and what the standards are. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and awareness with us and helping educate the public about alcohol.

  10. Daniele Holmberg on April 24, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Great article about debunking the myths about alcohol abuse. Your ebook sounds like a great tool to help with this issue.:)

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 24, 2013 at 2:26 pm

      Thanks, Daniele – let’s hope it is. I appreciate you commenting.

  11. Moira Hutchison on April 24, 2013 at 10:45 am

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom here and debunking myths that I’ve used in the past also! I appreciate your work on raising awareness – it’s important to recognize what really is going on behind the *stories* people tell inwardly and outwardly.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 24, 2013 at 2:28 pm

      I used many myself, Moira – which is what happens to those on the receiving end of the drinking behaviors. When you don’t understand, you believe it was because they hadn’t eaten, for example, and go along with the excuse. I appreciate you commenting – thank you!

  12. Pat Moon on April 24, 2013 at 11:53 am

    It is so important to understand the myths that go along with drinking alcohol.. thank you for informing.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 24, 2013 at 2:32 pm

      You’re welcome, Pat – I appreciate you commenting.

  13. Cathy Taughinbaugh on April 24, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    Hi Lisa,

    Great information here as always. There are so many myths about drinking and your book is such a gift and so needed to get the facts out about when people cross the line with their drinking. Your book is a wonderful resource for everyone, especially those families with teens.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 25, 2013 at 6:48 am

      Thanks, Cathy! As a Recovery Coach for parents of children with substance abuse | addiction, yourself, getting your feedback of its use as a resource for families with teens is wonderful!

  14. Sharon O'Day on April 26, 2013 at 2:30 pm

    “Outing” the myths and bringing clarity to the line of demarcation offer such valuable information, Lisa. These forms of addiction have probably suffered more than any other in terms of misinformation … probably because there is a “socially acceptable” component to them at one stage. Thanks for the great work!

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 26, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      You’re absolutely right, Sharon, “These forms of addiction have probably suffered more than any other in terms of misinformation … probably because there is a “socially acceptable” component to them at one stage.” Thanks so much for your comment!

  15. Carolyn Hughes on April 28, 2013 at 10:15 am

    Thank you for clearing up some of the myths of alcoholic drinking Lisa. It’s only by having the facts that an individual (or their families) can establish the nature of their drink problem and seek the appropriate help.

    • Lisa Frederiksen on April 29, 2013 at 8:43 am

      You’re welcome. I agree – now that we know and have the numbers of standard drinks considered “normal” or “moderate,” hopefully people can make better decisions about their drinking patterns. Thanks for the comment, Carolyn!

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