Parent’s Role in Their Child’s Decisions About Drinking and Using Drugs

by Lisa Frederiksen

Bob Curley’s News Feature on Join Together’s website summarizes the recent conference on “How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid: The Straight Dope.” It is filled with great information and suggestions. I’ve included a few of the highlights below:

  • Opening comments of Dr. Nora Volkow’s (she is the Director of the National Institute on Drug Abuse and a phenomenal leader in the addiction research effort — check out www.hbo.com/addiction to see what I am talking about):  “…the brains of children and adolescents are still forming, and  their ‘developmental trajectory’ can be greatly influenced by external stimuli — especially that provided by parents.”
  • Conference speaker Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., professor of pharmacology and cancer biology at the Duke University Medical Center and co-author of a pair of books on youth and drugs: “Kids are making choices using criteria we as adults don’t remember, because we don’t think that way anymore.”  “Parents, you’re their frontal cortex, because they don’t have one yet.”
  • Joseph A. Califano, Chairman and Founder of the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA*) at Columbia University: “Nine Facets of Parental Engagement” from his latest book, which lent its title to the conference -  a ‘how-to’ checklist for parents:
    • Be there: Get involved in your children’s lives and activities.
    • Open the lines of communication and keep them open.
    • Set a good example: Actions are more persuasive than words.
    • Set rules and expect your children to follow them.
    • Monitor your children’s whereabouts.
    • Maintain family rituals such as eating dinner together.
    • Incorporate religious and spiritual practices into family life.
    • Get Dad engaged — and keep him engaged.
    • Engage the larger family of your children’s friends, teachers, classmates, neighbors and community.

For the complete article by Bob Curley, appearing on Join Together’s website, click here.

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About Lisa Frederiksen

Lisa Frederiksen has been consulting, researching, writing and speaking on substance abuse, addiction, treatment, dual diagnosis, underage drinking and help for the family centered around 21st century brain and addiction-related research since 2003. Her 4o+ years experience with family and friends’ alcohol abuse and alcoholism and her seventh and eighth books, "Loved One In Treatment? Now What!" and "If You Loved Me, You'd Stop!," frame her work. She founded BreakingTheCycles.com in 2008 and writes a blog of the same name.
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