http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/2008/12/15/what-to-do-when-youre-concerned-about-a-loved-ones-drinking/ Specializing in research and information on alcohol related issues, including the latest brain research, underage drinking, alcohol abuse, alcoholism, secondhand drinking, dual diagnosis, impacts of a loved one's drinking on family members (codependency issues) and more... Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:59:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/2008/12/15/what-to-do-when-youre-concerned-about-a-loved-ones-drinking/#comment-1782 Breakingthecycles.com - Changing the Conversations » Blog Archive » Family Addiction - a Tough Nut to Crack Wed, 20 May 2009 14:16:57 +0000 http://www.breakingthecycles.com/blog/?p=113#comment-1782 [...] 3. Family members have a “brain thing” going on, too. For us - it’s the result of the constant assault of our fight-or-flight system. Our lack of understanding of the disease of addiction causes us to live in fear and anticipation of the other shoe dropping coupled with the frustration over the failures of our varied attempts to do whatever we could to stop it.  So those of us in the family who do not have the drinking problem also need help in order to change some of the behaviors we’ve adopted in order to survive — behaviors  that over time actually get in our way of living healthy, happy, fulfilling lives, regardless of whether our loved one stops drinking or not. Here are two links that may help: “And They All Fall Down…This ‘Thing’ They Call ‘Denial‘” and “What To Do When You’re Concerned About a Loved One’s Drinking.” [...] [...] 3. Family members have a “brain thing” going on, too. For us – it’s the result of the constant assault of our fight-or-flight system. Our lack of understanding of the disease of addiction causes us to live in fear and anticipation of the other shoe dropping coupled with the frustration over the failures of our varied attempts to do whatever we could to stop it.  So those of us in the family who do not have the drinking problem also need help in order to change some of the behaviors we’ve adopted in order to survive — behaviors  that over time actually get in our way of living healthy, happy, fulfilling lives, regardless of whether our loved one stops drinking or not. Here are two links that may help: “And They All Fall Down…This ‘Thing’ They Call ‘Denial‘” and “What To Do When You’re Concerned About a Loved One’s Drinking.” [...]

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