15 Minutes Can Change Your Life

15 Minutes Can Change Your Life

Change [including how one deals with a loved one’s addiction or with a loved one deeply affected by secondhand drinking (aka codependency)] begins in the mind. As such, a person can use their mind to change their lives. To help readers better understand this concept, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, shares the following post. To read herContinue Reading

My AA Family – They Loved Me Until I Was Able to Love Myself

My AA Family – They Loved Me Until I Was Able to Love Myself

There is a great deal of confusion, stigma, shame and discrimination surrounding addiction and addiction treatment and recovery. Yet those who have the chronic, often relapsing brain disease of addiction and are in recovery live healthy, productive, engaged lives — the same kinds of lives as people who do not have this disease. But allContinue Reading

Untreated ACEs Can Make Addiction Recovery Difficult

Untreated ACEs Can Make Addiction Recovery Difficult

Compare the changes in the Smart Phone of 2007 to the Smart Phone of today, 2017. Radical, revolutionary, life-changing, who could have imagined? The superlatives to describe this comparison are endless. Those same superlatives can be applied to the changes in our understanding of the human brain; changes that explain how ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences)Continue Reading

I Could Have Developed Alcoholism | I Developed Bulimia Instead

I Could Have Developed Alcoholism | I Developed Bulimia Instead

I still look back with great sadness on the 11 years I spent binging and purging (bulimia) and the year I spent “dieting” (anorexia)  — my lost years from ages 16-28. To the person whose never been bulimic, it’s impossible to understand why someone would “choose” to eat huge quantities of food and then throwContinue Reading

Finding Happiness After Addiction – Trevor McDonald

Finding Happiness After Addiction – Trevor McDonald

There is a great deal of confusion, stigma, shame and discrimination surrounding addiction and addiction treatment and recovery. Yet those who have the chronic, often relapsing brain disease of addiction and are in recovery live healthy, productive, engaged lives — the same kinds of lives as people who do not have this disease. But allContinue Reading

I Hate You and I Love You – Daughter of an Alcoholic

I Hate You and I Love You – Daughter of an Alcoholic

Helping children and adults understand the secondhand drinking (SHD) impacts a child experiences when growing up with a parent’s alcoholism* is essential to helping a child (or an adult child) heal from the SHD-related ACEs s/he likely experienced. Secondhand Drinking (SHD) refers to the negative impacts of a person’s drinking behaviors on others. Drinking behaviors include verbal,Continue Reading

A Son’s Overdose | A Mother’s Profound Grief, Strength and Hope

A Son’s Overdose | A Mother’s Profound Grief, Strength and Hope

The following is a guest post by Laura Rosch. She’d shared this as a comment on another guest post appearing on BreakingTheCycles.com. As I wrote to Laura, I was struck by all that she had written, but this part really hit me: “But now I have a life to live and other people that loveContinue Reading

Marriage After Sobriety | Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT

Marriage After Sobriety | Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT

Marriage after sobriety can be a rocky time. Both partners feel vulnerable as they transition into their “new” relationship. To help couples during this time, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, shares the following post. To read her longer version, please click here. Darlene is the author of Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You,Continue Reading